I’ll bet you all think it’s been really hard on Stuart and I, to be separated for these past few months, with only a smattering of beautiful English days together all summer. You were wrong, relative to the SKULL CRUSHING IMPATIENCE that I am currently feeling.
Today is Thursday, September 23rd. Stuart arrives, as you’re all well sick of hearing, on Thursday, October 7th. That’s 336 hours, with about 98 hours subracted for blissful non-clock-watching sleep. Now I’m freaking out, because 336 hours sounds like a LOT more time than, say, 14 days or 2 weeks. And there’s one thing I’m not very good at: waiting.
The past few days, since we broke through the three week mark, Stuart and I find it hard to even talk about anything else to each other. I lie awake at night, staring at the furniture in my room and rearranging it so that there’s the most amount of space for all our stuff. I reorganized my kitchen this weekend and put larger items on the top shelves with a confidence I didn’t possess when I first moved there, shorty mcsmallface that I am. I’ve mentally coordinated and trashed about ten Airport Outfit ideas. My obsessively plan-oriented brain has been going into hyperdrive, complete with smoke coming out the ears.
And none of it is making the time go any faster. Two weeks feels like the Sahara of Eternity until we’re together again. I’ve started snapping at subway trains and deli sandwich makers because they’re not moving fast enough. As if somehow, the slower other people function, the slower time will move towards October 7th.
Help. Does anyone remember that whole Wrinkle in Time thing? Any ideas on how to turn concrete time into a mutable, subservient being? How can I make two weeks become two hours? Advice is greatly appreciated… AND STEP ON IT.




Oh Krissa, krissa krissa. Been there! We were married in May in England, I got on a plane and came home after our honeymoon.
He couldn’t come until OCTOBER.
I counted the days. Everyone I worked with knew the day count. Some would torture me and ask every day. ‘How long until husband comes over?’
I took post-it notes and wrote the day count backwards and with joy and relish I would RIP one off every day.
I did the house thing, I debated the clothes….I am laughing, not at your expense of course, at everything becuase that is EXACTLY how it was.
The day he landed they lost all of his luggage. It didn’t matter one bit…
Just remember this time, you will rememebr it fondly later when you reminiss at your 5th, 6th 7th, 25th wedding anniversary.
Low-class couch sloth is the only way to go.
I know, I know, there are some who say a nonstop cosmo binge will speed the days away. And there are others who will just as heartily recommend opiates and whatnot. But for me nothing beats a comfy couch, bad tv and excessive quantities of foods from the two main groups (fatty/salty and sweet/chocolaty). I can’t tell you how often I’ve come to my senses in rubble of chip bags and cookie crumbs to find that somehow it was Sunday night. Where did the weekend go?
In all seriousness time might be immutable but our preception of it isn’t. Seems to me if you’re thinking too much about his upcoming arrival maybe doing something physical will help. Anything really, long walks, punting on the Hudson, Salsa dancing, you might be able to fool the impatient part of your brain into thinking that you’re hastening his arrival.
Other than that I suggest you cherish the feeling. It’s a concrete and undeniable expression of your love and that isn’t something to ignore. If that makes you a little testy so be it. Your friends will understand and I’m sure the rest of NYC won’t even notice.
When you find out, please share with the rest of us. I have been working on it for years with no such luck! But good luck keeping busy in the mean time. It’s the only thing I can think of to make it SEEM like time is going faster.
write me something, darlin…
Settle in dearie, 2 weeks is nothing in comparison to what you’ll soon be experiencing with the Department of Homeland Security. Feature length stop-motion-animation films are made more quickly than that place can issue a green card.
“and there’s one thing I’m not very good at..waiting”
Boy can I relate to that!!!!!
All I can say is focus on how joyous it will be when Stuart arrives….AT least you know you are waiting for something wonderful.
Good Luck!!!
90210 marathons on FX are a great distraction. You sit down in front of the tv at 9 in the morning and as quickly as you can say “Brenda Years” it’s 6 p.m. and Kelly has a coke addiction. True bliss.
Hope you don’t mind my commenting. I read your blog daily. Best of luck conquering time.
well, if you ask me you shouldn’t really worry. I know all of this is going to sound ridiculous but I thought i’d give it a try. You are going to be spending the rest of your life with him. Two weeks isn’t anything. Relax and just take it in cause soon your entire world will change. Realize that it might be the last time that you go to the movies alone, or that you eat breakfast alone. I know you want to do all those things with him but enjoy what you have till it’s over. Soon enough he’ll be there and you’ll be debating what to do for diner and what movie to watch, or what side of the bed you’re sleeping on (even though i’m sure you’ve already decided that).So have a good time, i wish i was there to help you pass the time. tchoa.
Hi there,
As others have said, savor these feelings. It’s beautiful to read about someone being so in love.. Gives me hope for the future! Have a wonderful time w/Stuart.
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