If I see one more person using their blog to personally attack Heather and then mask it under “critical analysis” of “The New York Times” or “female bloggers” – I AM TURNING THIS INTERNET AROUND AND GOING HOME.
To put it more succinctly, I’m starting to think my mother was wrong. She said, “If you can’t think of something kind to say, don’t say anything at all,” a policy I’ve tried to observe (except for the infamous RNC rant) here on this site. Apparently, it’s much hipper as, “If you can’t think of something kind to say, blog about it.”
What a shame.
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it appears snark is the sincerest form of flattery.
What? Who has been picking on our Fish? Let me know the link and I will kick some arse!
Sad experience has taught me that there are far too many people out there with so little love in their hearts that all they can do is shovel out hatefulness and call it justified.
Fortunately, experience has also taught me that there are great people who are full of love and friendship and who are always ready to comfort and support the people they care about.
The first, we ignore. The second,…we read their blogs!
I am probably going to incite a wave of my own hate mail here, but aren’t we forgetting something? That everyone is entitled to their own opinion? I am not saying it is nice to blog nasty stuff about others, but still, it is their blog, and heaven forbid we try and tell other people what they can and cannot write about…I say: you don’t like it, don’t read it. And don’t deluge the offending person with hate mail of your own…we all know two wrongs don’t make a right.
BTW: I love the Fish and all but am just playing devil’s advocate here.
Side note to S:
I was the person who wrote a “long angry email” to Lindsay. Personally, I don’t think it was terribly long, and it couldn’t have been milder in tone if I’d pureed my email with some mashed banana. I completely agree that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and I said as much in my missive; I merely took issue with the personal-attackish way in which that opinion was expressed.
Biscuit: fair enough really, funny how these things get blown out of proportion. I’ll bow out here, with a small side note of my own. It’s funny that I am playing devil’s advocate anyway, given that my own 3 year long blogging experience was ended by an anonymous cyber-stalker who not only insulted me on my and every other site I visited, but also made veiled threats about revealing me to my employers etc. and eventually made me fear for my own personal safety. I guess in an ideal world we would all play nice…
thanks, S, for your position as devil’s advocate. you couldn’t have said it more politely and fairly. you’re probably right, there’s a small dose of hypocrisy. but i wasn’t just referring to the one or two blogs that attacked heather. i was expressing, on MY blog, the frustration i feel with the way people use the medium.
and sincere thanks for saying what you said with grace.
Darling girl, you are both welcome and right – let me just say in my own defence that I wasn’t so much gently reminding You of these facts (as in fact I completely agreed with your post) as I was some of the folk who wanted to go kick arse. Not that there is anything wrong with wanting to defend your friends…anyway, much love and good wishes to the entire Tribe from a regular reader from far, far away.
I don’t have anything negative to say, just wanted to say hello since I haven’t talked to you in a long time. Hope all is going grossly well for you as i’m sure it is.
Hi Krissa,
Thank you.
It’s so funny that I should chance upon your blog whilst attempting to kill time.
I’ve 36 days to wait until I can be with ‘him’ again. I am in Brisbane, Australia and ‘he’ is in Florianopolis, Brasil. It’s been 4 months since we were together, and I’m flying back to Brasil on Christams Eve to marry ‘him’. Our family and friends all think we’re mad since we’re so young but it’s just so right. Nothing can ever get me down because I know I have ‘him’ to look foward to.
Reading your archives all day made me cry and laugh and smile. Everything you said, the leaving each other at the airport, the days and nights alone, keeping your watch on his timezone… holy hell, I know exactly what you mean.
I am so, so, so happy for you and Stuart. Isn’t it just inexpicably fantastic to find each other? I find that it’s such that, despite the incredible torture of being separated by an ocean and bureaucratic red tape, the beauty of ‘it’ is just overwhelming. Nothing can touch it. I can tell, by reading your posts and seeing photos of you and Stuart, you understand.
Your blog is a delight to read, you’ve a stunning smile, and you’ve totally made my day
Best wishes to you and Stuart. Enjoy!!
Lately the internet keeps eating my comments. Hopefully I don’t accidentally post this twice.
What bugged me about the snarky comments were that she then went on to say “I was talking about the Times” over and over again (in comments on Fish, and then on her own blog). As if she made some sort of insightful critique of the NY Times as a newspaper that had disappointed her. When the entire blog entry was nothing but personal attack, and I am not even sure that there actually was a mention of the newspaper it was in, other than the link leading you to the article.
If called by someone on being snarky, at least have the ovaries to admit it and say “yes, I’m snarky, what’s it to you” rather than pretend to be all critical and say the other party is blowing things out of proportion. And then say “I don’t take this stuff seriously”. Pfah!
Good for you for writing to her and telling her YOUR opinion on hers. I agree with your mother, who seems to be quoting Thumper’s Dad (from Bambi). Say something nice or else be prepared to have others say not nice things to and about you.
Actually, Kim, I didn’t write to her, although she did take a dig at my tribe and that’s just not cool.
seriously: bad comments make blogging absolutely no fun. i like what fish said about the two knobs on the radio: if you can’t contribute to the discussion, turn the music off.
sigh.